What people are saying about
Bullycide in America
Moms speak out about the bullying/suicide connection
“The stories in this book are about a reality that only the
courageous will read. Truth is hard, and breaking through denial and
excuse is painful. It is easier for adults to project trust rather
than prepare for professional ambivalence towards children in the
system of public education. The stories in this book are about
children lost, when professional ambivalence in public education
compromised parents' efforts to keep their children safe.”
Catherine A. Hogan, MSW, LCSW (CT) - Former President, Connecticut
Association of School Social Workers
“On April 16, 2002, my son, 14-year-old Jon Gettle, left his home
during the night, walked 200 yards to his middle school and hung
himself outside the 8th grade hallway. His note said, "Bullying is a
problem". These seven moms will never be alone in their suffering.”
Cathy Gettle (NY) – Mother of Jon Gettle
"Never have I been so impacted by a book as I have been with
Bullycide in America: Moms speak out about the bullying/suicide
connection. From the moment I received the book, held it in my hands
and read through the stories of dozens of innocent children who died
an untimely death, my life shifted forever. With each story, tears
rolled down my cheeks, as my heart weigh heavy. I cannot begin to
comprehend the loss a parent experiences when their child chooses to
end their life because they can no longer endure the pain of being
bullied. Once you read the stories from parents who lost their
children to bullying, you will you never be able to ignore this
silent epidemic. Bullycide in America will send ripples through the
halls of our schools, impact the conversations at the dinner table
and leave you ready to to take whatever action you can to stop the
destructive chain of the bullying/suicide connection in our youth.
Bullycide in America promises to change our culture forever. The
images will never leave your psyche and will forever stay etched in
your mind and heart. You WILL be moved to action" Kathleen Gage
(OR)
“The book, Bullycide in America, is written from the heart and
soul and has made me realize I am not the only person to endure this
type of tragedy. It is written by courageous Mothers speaking out
about their sadness of losing a child due to bullying. Their love,
heartache, disappointment, laughter, grief, and sadness are all
portrayed by their words. Although the content of this book may be
difficult to read in print, it is a rude awakening to see the number
of children who are enduring the pain of bullying daily. This book
will serve to parents, teachers and children in raising awareness of
the effects of bullying no matter how big or small. “ Deborah
Michalenka (RI) In Loving Memory of Jeffrey Michalenka, who died by
bullycide, 6/6/90 – 6/13/06 (Age 16)
“… I am now on page 100 into Kristina’s story. From what I have
read so far, it really takes the paint off the wall with me. Your
book reminds me of the way I was treated as a kid with name-calling,
getting beat up for no reason, kids taking advantage of me…teachers
did not want to hear it and some teachers said I deserved it. I
remember reading about Benjamin Brewer, a 15-year-old Delaware
student who threw himself in front of a train in February 2004
because he had been bullied for three years. Your Book is excellent
and I hope it will make schools more aware of what is going on.”
Douglas Chapman (OH)
“Much more than a mere exposé of horrifying statistics, this book
is a collection of personal letters to you, straight from a broken
heart, about the most devastating case of bullycide ever ... the one
that claimed the writer’s own child. I applaud every author in these
pages who has struggled in the depths of grief to tell the most
painful story of their life, and I challenge America to respond to
their tear-stained pages.” Neil Marr (France) – Co writer of
“Bullycide: Death at Playtime”
"Wow what a real eye opener. Every parent and teacher needs to
read this book to understand how bullying effects everyone involved,
and how important it is to take action on bullying reports.” Jim
Jordan, President of Report Bullying “Bullycide in America” is the
penned words of Mothers about the vivacity of their children and is
truly heart melting. Along with these families sharing their
nightmare, it also gives truths about depression and how to stop
bullying in our schools. Today we can only read about the shadows
left behind of these vibrant youth’s journey as a messenger of
destruction invaded their innocent heart and left an adolescent
fishing for love, comfort, warmth, direction, security which finally
defunct a memorable youth. Much gratitude is given for this book, as
it is the beginning of the awakening of this Nations' bullying in
schools. The landmark of bullying needs to be removed as it makes no
friendship with the understanding. Our homes, our community, our
schools, our states, and our Nation must step into this mouth of
corruption not to balance this shame, but to begin the end of it.”
Gregory D Anderson (TN)
“These stories were heart wrenching and powerful and will leave
an indelible impression on everyone who reads them. They had
considerable resonance for me since I was relentlessly bullied
myself as a child and have spent much of my adulthood trying to
recover from the experience. What I found most poignant and haunting
about the stories is that these were all children who had parents
who clearly loved them and tried hard to advocate for them and
protect them, but were unable to save them because of the
indifference of the school and legal authorities who declined to
take action - they saw bullying as a normal part of growing up.”
Pat Whalen (NY)
“…Bullycide in America brings out a very serious issue that needs
to be address very rigorously. Our children are our future, we need
to protect them.” Patricia Toler (MD)
"Truly amazing. Each story compels tears, anger, compassion,
anxiety and hope that by telling their stories these mothers have
made their children live again in each of us who read this book."
Carter B. Myers (TX) – Director of AnComm
“I received the book on Friday and read it cover to cover by
11:30 PM that night! Although tears poured down my face, I felt the
need to read on and on! After reading the book, I realize I have so
much more to learn about depression and the signs to watch for. It
also made me acutely aware of the cunning behavior that bullies
possess. Their parents portray the undercurrent of pain and stress
that these victims have had to endure in a loving and compassionate
manner! Since I work in an elementary school, I experience the
reporting and handling of bullying in its many forms. A single, yet
very important point I emphasize to staff and students is that, if a
student comes to us and reports an incident (to an adult, as
required and requested in our school policy); it is our profound
duty to address it with a serious and dedicated approach. I have
learned that by the time the information is reported, the bullying
has already reached a level that the student feels they cannot
manage it on their own. Education is the key.” Renee Hassebroek
(TX) Corinne's Aunt
"Hard hitting and straight forward, Bullycide in America
factually exemplifies a major problem in schools across America. Be
it physical, verbal, or psychological, bullying is real! Moreover,
authorities often insist it does not exist in their school, but
bullying does not discriminate. It is in all schools, all across
America. Bullying is responsible for student health problems,
stress, depression, fear, anxiety, humiliation, and poor grades. And
yes, sadly, it is responsible at times for teen suicide and school
shootings. Bullycide in America reveals the grief of parents and
family members of victims of bullying because the system failed
them. This is a sad reality of contemporary life in America, that
bullying flourishes in our public school system. The true reality is
that it is there, in our public school systems, that bullying must
be addressed by everyone involved...teachers, parents, and all those
connected with the school.” Robert Jae Skye (VT) - Author and
Bullying Prevention Advocate
"Bullycide in America provides striking examples of what can
happen when some of the most bully-sensitive and aware members of
our society, our children, are not protected by adults in our
social, legal, and school systems. These courageous stories validate
many other parents' stories and motivate all of us to get real and
take action against all forms of bullying." Tami McCandlish,
author of Flying Grounded: My Spiritual Triumph Over Female Bullying
and founder of The Triumph Organization |